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Why Teachers Love Spring Break

March 21, 2018March 21, 2018 teachingtravelingandtalking

I love spring break as a teacher. In all honesty, I love it more now than when I was a student. So why do teachers need a whole week off? In two short months, I will be on a 2 1/2 month break (which really isn’t a break because a teacher’s work never ends), but why do we so desperately need a break?

I thought about this question yesterday after an insane day. Insane week. Insane month to be honest. Let me put a few things in perspective:

My days consist of getting students prepped and ready for the high stakes state test. Every day I want to pull my hair and eyes out while banging my head on the cement wall as my students stare at me with blank faces when I give a question released by the state. Let’s see…I come back from my very short (15 minute) lunch break this week to only find that during those short minutes without my kids, one child (let’s call him Billy) took another child’s head (let’s call him Bob) and banged it into the lunch table. Oh, there’s more. As he took Bob’s face toward the table, he oh so rightly aimed his nose straight into the straw of his milk carton. Milk spilled. Blood everywhere. I wish I was surprised, but after Billy stuffed a highlighter up Bob’s nose earlier in February, hey, shock is no longer in my vocabulary. Furthermore, I have dealt with many threats in my district and those around me, including a school shooting only 25 minutes down the road. The list continues. So why do we need a spring break?

First Real Break since Christmas
- I will admit, this year has been full of snow days, but after months of testing prep, paperwork, lazy co-workers, insane parents, school shootings and threats, and so much more, teachers are ready for a few days to get away from the stress.
Time to Vacation
- Luckily, I have family on the southern east coast, which gives me time to get on that plane and leave. I don’t want to just get away from work, I want to leave my state completely. I finally get some sun, relaxation, and fun.
Break from Parents and Co-Workers
- Sure, I work with some wonderful and amazing teachers. Yes, I have fabulous parents that are supportive and don’t scream at me every time they see me. Yet, I work with parents that think Joe Schmoe can do no wrong. I work with a teacher that rarely pulls her weight. By spring break–Bye Felecia.
Calm before the Storm
- Oh, spring break….I love and loathe you. Spring break brings a time of rest, relaxation, and my blood pressure goes down significantly. My heartbeat is finally beating at a normal human level. Yet, spring break signals one thing–state testing. The bane of all teachers. I understand why state testing is needed and necessary. Sure. Yet, those weeks are complete torture for my kiddos. They stress out. I see anxiety come out for 10 year olds. They are told to be silent and sit still for hours. It’s rough. Spring break is fun, but it only signals what is to come.
Signals Summer
- After spring break, and the dreaded testing season, it only means one thing–summer is on the horizon. Spring is like a Red Bull for teachers to get us through the next 8-9 weeks. A quick power up before the race to the finish line. If anything, it gives us a good reminder that we can make it and finish our year successfully!

All in all, have a wonderful spring break my friends! Travel. Relax. Sleep. Try not to work the entire week off. Visit family. Have fun! Finish your year strong!

xoxo

Your Wanderer

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Teaching after a School Shooting

February 17, 2018February 17, 2018 teachingtravelingandtalking

Today, I write with a heavy heart.

I am an educator in the U.S. This week, we once again saw another mass shooting at a school. My heart breaks. My stomach churns. I cried as I watched the videos. Yet, our country turns against one another instead of coming together to find solutions to keep our kiddos safe.

Why?

A statistic was released this week that 18 school shootings have occurred since January 1, 2018. Then different stories came out about each of these shootings. Some shootings were due to suicides on school campuses but not in school hours. Others were from bullets hitting a window. A round of bullets being fired in a school parking lot. The stories continued. Here is the fact though: There have been multiple school shootings this year. That is appalling. For those screaming “There were only three, not eighteen!” Shame. On. You. There was one, more than one. It’s an issue. A large and scary issue.

As teachers, we go above and beyond to keep our kiddos safe. We will, and do, put our lives on the lines to save your child. We put our own families and children on the back burner so your kid is safe and learns in a welcoming and safe environment.

So why do I write this? For many of my international readers, I always value your opinions. Why? Simple:

The UK has not had a school shooting since 1996.
Australia’s last school shooting was in 1996.
Germany, Finland, and Scotland have responded to attacks on schools with large policy changes.
Switzerland has high gun ownership, but school shootings do not exist.
In Germany, you must pass a rigorous psychological and medical exam if you are under 25 and trying to obtain a firearm.

Here are more facts:

Parents are waking up this morning with their child no longer alive in their bed.
Parents are planning their child’s funerals.
Bright minds and futures were extinguished this week quickly and violently.
The gunman legally bought his firearm, even after being flagged by the FBI for speaking about becoming a professional school shooter.
Our children need to be safe at school.

As a teacher, I find myself reading comments from individuals saying that teachers are “sitting ducks” and “too merciful” if a gunman entered the school. Little do they know that teachers will fight to the death to keep their students safe. I’ve watched, heard, and read individuals fight more about guns and firearms, instead of discuss the issue at hand and speak intelligently and respectfully about ways to protect our future.

Our kids come to school with problems–abuse, financial burdens, hungry, homeless, hurt, and broken. They carry the worries of their parents and families. Some do not know where their next meal will come. These kiddos depend on our schools to keep them safe and away from harm. School shootings should not be added to their worries.

Whatever your stance may be, let’s get one thing straight: We must protect our kids at all costs. Instead of becoming divided on this issue, let’s strike a spark in our country to make a change and keep our children safe.

We have parents, teachers, and students afraid to go to school, worried if it will happen to them, and planning what to do if the event happens. Being prepared is a must. However, what can we do as Americans to get this issue under control? Other countries have, why can’t we? Let’s not forget this event and merely move forward. Let’s spark change.

xoxo

Your Wanderer

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Top 10 Teacher Pet Peeves

February 11, 2018 teachingtravelingandtalking

Let me say. this first–I LOVE my profession. Just like any profession, we have our own pet peeves that make us want to pull our hair out and bang our head against the brick wall. So what are our top 10 pet peeves?

TOP 10 TEACHER PET PEEVES

No Name on Paper–Please…please, just write your stinkin’ name at the top of the page.
Repeating Myself...for the hundredth time–When I spent 10 minutes explaining the direction, and a hand immediately raises and asks “what am I supposed to do?” my eyes slightly bulge and I have to count to ten in my head.
Losing Planning Time–Yes, let’s take my 30 minute planning period that I am supposed to grade papers, create a differentiated lesson, answer emails and phone calls, create materials, and set up lesson preps and just get rid of it for something else that is a waste of time.
Talking during the lesson–Maybe you’d know what to do if you stopped talking to your friend….
Long meetings–A short meeting? What are those? They do not exist.
Misbehaving during an Observation–We’ve all been there.
Extra Credit Requests–Sure, extra credit is sometimes needed if a massive group of students don’t do well on a test (when in reality we should re-evaluate our teaching methods and re-teach the lesson), and sometimes one student does bomb a test. I’m not talking about that. We know that kid. The one who never studies. The one who has an excuse for every homework assignment or project. No…no you may not get extra credit.
Will This Be on the Test?–Yes.
Seeing the Classroom as their Bedroom–I’ll never forget my second year of teaching. I had a fabulous group of kiddos. Yet, I will never forget a student who constantly lost his papers. Finally, I asked him where he was placing them. “I put them right here on the floor! Someone must have stolen my papers!” No kiddo. No. That’s when I explained my room was not his bedroom. It was an eye-opening and ground breaking moment for him.
Do We Have To?–What do you think the answer will be? Yes. Then Yes.

But at the end of the day, we wouldn’t trade our job for anything else!

xoxo

You Wanderer

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Living with High Functioning Anxiety

February 7, 2018February 7, 2018 teachingtravelingandtalking

Let’s talk about anxiety. High functioning anxiety.

Why?

Women are more likely to experience anxiety.
People from North America and Western Europe are more likely to be affected by anxiety.
Anxiety affects 18.1% of adults in the U.S.
Estimates of 30% of people don’t seek help
Around 10% of those with anxiety…seek effective help.

As a teacher and traveler, I find myself battling with anxiety. No. I’m not talking about stress and I smack a label on it with anxiety. I don’t go around telling every individual that I struggle with anxiety. Sure, I talk about awareness with friends and family, but I don’t use my anxiety as an excuse at work or even at home.

There are so many types of anxiety disorders too: general anxiety, panic disorder, social anxiety, etc.

I have High Functioning Anxiety. So what’s it like? Truly like? What are triggers?

Restlessness–The brain does NOT shut off. This is a common symptom for people with anxiety, and women. Why women? Well, studies show that a woman’s brain chemistry is different and hormone fluctuations are also linked to anxiety. Women are more prone to stress, react differently to their life events, and think deeply about stressors. Bingo. A person with high functioning anxiety can look calm as a cucumber on the surface, but inside their brain is going a million miles a minute.
Time–I have found that people with anxiety focus on time. They need to be on time. They watch that clock. “I’m late!” is a common phrase…even though they arrive 15 minutes early to everything. Time can be an anxiety trigger. Being with a group of people that are running late? Anxiety triggered. Someone else running late which affects a meeting or schedule? Anxiety triggered.
Personality Type–Although anxiety hits all types of personalities, I do find it interesting that type A individuals are more likely to be affected by stress-related illnesses. Type A people are twice as likely to develop coronary heart disease. Type A is achievement oriented, high-strung, intense, high individual expectations, and put high demands on themselves. Can you see this as a recipe for trouble? However, many personality types have traits and potentials for anxiety. Read more here: https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2014/10/anxiety-and-personality-type/
Sleep–Those with anxiety struggle with sleep. Shocker? No. Yet, you may hear that these people sleep waaaay more than the average person. Here’s the thing–it’s not solid sleep. It’s sleep that is riddled with dreams, waking up, and even panic attacks. That doesn’t sound like a restful sleep to me. So remember that your anxious friend may not be sleeping through the night and is realistically getting less sleep than you due to constantly waking up or laying in bed without actually falling asleep.
Silent–High functioning anxiety can be hard to detect. Why? We look just fine and dandy on the outside. Inside is where we are having an inner monologue that is freaking out. I have quite a few close friends, a large family, a husband, and positive relationships with my co-workers. Who can tell when my anxiety hits? My father and sometimes my husband. It’s not many people. My heart races. I zone out. I’m caught in my own thoughts. I need to be alone. I feel fatigued, even dizzy. My brain races. Chest tightens. These anxiety attacks last a few minutes to over an hour. They feel never ending. Yet, these symptoms are silent to those around me. This is the hardest type of anxiety to detect.
Perfectionist–Ah, perfectionism. Maybe it’s my inner teacher, but this need and want has never left. Those who struggle with perfectionism find themselves with anxiety at times. Why? That stack of papers over there needs to graded or at least filed properly. Files are color coded. Everything is labeled with the help of a label maker and in alphabetical order. There is a specific place for everything. Unrealistic perfectionism can increase anxiety and, interestingly, they enhance one another. Perfectionism leads to ideas of not being good enough or fearing mistakes. All or nothing thinking increases the anxiety, and most perfectionists see things as absolutes. Perfectionism is a major trigger (and even part of) anxiety. https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2014/05/the-link-between-perfectionism-and-anxiety/.

So what do I do? I plan to write another blog soon to give some tips on how to handle anxiety. No, I’m not a psychiatrist or doctor, but I do struggle with anxiety. Guess what? I also received help by a trained professional. Getting help was one of the hardest and best things I ever did for my mental health. Did the anxiety disappear? Absolutely not! Was I able to handle it better? Yes.

Remember my teacher and traveling friends–take care of YOU. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health.

“The thing about an anxiety disorder is that you know it is stupid. You know with all your heart that it wasn’t a big deal and that it should roll off of you. But that is where the disorder kicks in. Suddenly the small things is very big and it keeps growing in your head, flooding your chest, and trying to escape from under your skin. You know with all of your heart that you’re being ridiculous and you hate every minute of it.”

xoxo

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Teacher and also a Student

February 2, 2018February 2, 2018 teachingtravelingandtalking

Last year at this time, I found myself neck deep in work–completing the Ohio residency program, planning a large wedding, and finishing my masters program…all while also working full time. As I reminisce this chapter of my life, I truly wonder now how I survived. I had to take every day one step at a time. I could get ahead in planning with teaching, but my nights were filled with making phone calls to the wedding coordinator and writing paper after paper for graduate school.

Here I am. A teacher. A student. All at the same time.

So how does one work full time, attend graduate school with max hours allowed, and have a life on top of that? What are the best and worst things about graduate school? Are there ways to make it easier?

Let me break down the five most basic questions everyone in this position (or pondering this torture) will encounter at some point. These are things I wish people would have helped me when I earned my degree in Curriculum and Instruction.

How do I pick a graduate school and major that fits me? Ask yourself:
- Do I even want/need to go to school? Yes. Read on. No. Read one of my other posts. 😉
- What am I good at? What aspect of my undergraduate degree do I want to expand
- What do I want to improve?
- Online or Campus? Let me recommend online as long as you can work basic computer programs. Best. Decision. Ever. I loved working in my PJ’s at home on my own time.
- What can I afford? In the good ol’ U.S. of A. we sadly have to pay most of our schooling bill. It’s a sacrifice, but that’s the road to success. When picking a graduate school, I looked at schools that had my major, provided online options, and would not dig me deeper in a debt ditch or contemplate paying student loans or eating.
- Find what works for you. Figure out what you want. If you’re spending this money and time for another degree, it needs to meet your needs and wants.
What is the workload like?
- Depends on your degree and work ethic. Generally…it’s a lot. Plain and simple.
- Can you type quickly or know shortcuts to search for key words to insert in a paper? Can you use Google? Sounds silly, but you’d be surprised. Everything depends on your skills, work ethic, and time management. For example, reading the entire text book in three days may not be likely (especially if you value your life). However, I recommend using an online textbook. Why? Ctrl + F baby. Looking for a specific word or need information for a research paper. Ctrl + F. It allows you to find what you need quickly and cut down on some time searching through hundreds of pages. That’s graduate school. Yes, you learn, but you have to find ways to eliminate times of waste as well.
- Word smarter not harder.
Is it possible for those with a family?
- Is It possible? Absolutely. Single mothers do it. Parents do it. Older individuals do it. Young people with zero money in their pocket do it.
- Sure, you’ll be busy. You’ll need to set a specific amount of time each night (or day) to work on school work. You may need your spouse to take care of the kids for an hour each night. Maybe it ends up being video game time for the kiddos for that hour or two. You’ll be exhausted, don’t misunderstand me, but it is possible.
What should I expect that no one will tell me upfront?
- In my situation, the thing NO ONE told me about was the amount of group projects. Oh….I LOATHE group projects! As I stated before, I earned my degree in Curriculum and Instruction which involved educators from around the country. It shocked me how many teachers were lazy. I felt like I was dealing with my students. I found myself begging individuals to do some of the group work (as the workload was enormous since it was supposed to be split), and teachers would either not respond at all, put the work load on other individuals, or do 1/4 of the work, while I was left with the other 3/4. What a pain in the behind. Furthermore, I found that professors–you know, the people who are teachers to the teachers, were giving those who did nothing the same grade as those who did all the work. Sure, I told my professors what happened. Yes, I explained the situations in the group evaluations. Didn’t matter. I only had ONE professor that graded us fairly. You know…the way we are supposed to grade our own students. So what’s the point of this rant? There are things you will absolutely encounter and no one mentions–people are incompetent. It doesn’t matter which department, which professor or peer…it happens. The financial aid office “loses” your payment or scholarship aid. The professor punches in the grades wrong and confuses your 96% for a 69%. The dean stops reading your emails when you explain you’re not paying the university to edit and fix their technology issues on a daily basis. Not like any of that has happened to me… Hang in there folks, the end is worth it. I promise.
Is it worth it?
- In the end (and for those of us who have to pay), yes. Within my first 15 graduate credits, I received a pay bump. By the end of my masters degree, I was given a more significant pay bump. Although it may not seem huge right now, in a few years I will be making close to 10k more than those with an undergraduate degree. Additionally, I will be making more every year as I get closer to that time where the pay gap is larger. What about more than just the price? Let’s talk about the fact that I did actually learn things essential to my career. It helped me become a better teacher. I learned new methods, technological tools, strategies, research, etc. I came out of it more educated about my field. Even with my frustrating time pursuing my graduate degree, I am so happy to have my degree.